Coaching designed to help you build the relationships you desire, reach your fullest potential, and create impact.
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COACHING FOR LEADERS
EXECUTIVES | ATHLETES | TEACHERS | PERFORMERS | PASTORS | ENTREPRENEURS
WHAT I DO
Think of working with me as a mix between therapy and coaching. Thera-coaching, if you will.
My approach is built to guide you towards a more rewarding life that allows you to make an impact on the world around you. Using my POV Method, we learn to better understand your past, own your present life, and cast a vision for the way you’d like to live — and along the way, we’ll develop the tools you need to feel confident in your decisions, present in your relationships, and more connected than ever.
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1:1 Coaching
Personalized, individualized coaching to help you improve your relationship to yourself, your pursuits, and your relationships.
My 1:1 coaching is designed for people who are committed to growth in personal development, relationships, connection/intimacy, or the executive/entrepreneurial space. This style of coaching moves through three phases:
1. It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business, maybe you want a deeper connection with your spouse, or maybe you feel like you need to gain clarity about where you are headed. Whatever it is, how you go about assessing your circumstances and developing your plan makes all the difference.
2. Together, we’ll work not only to understand the direction you’d like to go but also how to actually get there. This includes a boots-on-the-ground approach filled with practical recommendations and advice for getting past the idea stage and into something real.
3. This is where I help you to accelerate your goals and grow well beyond your expectations. Whether you have been working on something for a while or are just getting started, we’ll identify key ways to scale your idea and recognize — and surpass — the goals you have set.
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Couples Coaching
Couples Intensive
The focus of the Couples Intensive is to learn to communicate, resolve conflict, and develop greater connection. You’ll have the opportunity to dig deeply into your relationship to explore, recognize, and move beyond underlying patterns of conflict, unresolved difficulties, and walls of fear and defensiveness that might be preventing you from being truly intimate with one another. You’ll both identify how these patterns are related to difficulties in other current or past relationships and how these patterns may be affecting your well-being as an individual.
I’ll help you guide you as you decide what in your relationship should remain the same and what should change, digging into learnings like:
Learn how to build a strong relationship.
Recognize your contribution to the partnership.
Determine the relationship's conflicts and your options.
Learn how to be a role model for healthy relationships.
Identifying sources of trauma.
Learn how to deal with disagreement.
Practice and learn effective communication.
Increase closeness by (re)establishing trust.
The Connected Couple
Feeling disconnected, struggling to communicate well, finding yourselves in constant conflict, maybe even feeling a little lonely?
If these feelings sound all too familiar, you're not alone — and this is where the Connected Couple course comes into play. In this short course, you'll learn the skills and techniques needed to overcome these common pain points and create a strong and loving connection with your partner.
No matter how long you've been together or how deep the rift may seem, there are a few simple, intentional actions that can draw you back together like never before. Here’s what we’ll learn about together:
Remembering why you love your person
The components of a healthy relationship
Being on the same team
Communication
The joy of conflict
Distractions
Intimacy
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Psychotherapy Services
Individual, Couples, and Group Counseling
I offer psychotherapy services to address a number of individual, couples and family concerns listed below. As a results oriented psychotherapist, I rely heavily upon evidence-based and evidence informed treatment models like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Motivational Interviewing (MI), Solution Focused Therapy, Gottman Method, and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help clients achieve their treatment goals.
FOR INDIVIDUALS:
Anxiety
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
Bipolar Disorder
Depression
Grief
Trauma
Childhood Sexual Abuse
Self-Esteem
Stress Management
Autism Spectrum Disorders
Life Transitions
Terminal + Significant Illness
Social Skills
Pornography and Sex Addiction
Adolescent Counseling
Boundaries
Christian Counseling
FOR COUPLES:
Premarital Counseling
Marital Counseling
Couples' Intensives
Affair Recovery
Sex Addiction Recovery
Communication
Conflict
Divorce
Miscarriage
Christian Couples Counseling
FOR GROUPS:
Sex Addiction Recovery Group
Partner's Recovery Group
INTENSIVE GROUP EXPERIENCES
Interested in planning a customized group experience for your organization or team?
I’ve previously hosted retreats both across the US and internationally.
I’m your coach, Jason VanRuler.
LPC-MH, QMHP, LMHC, CSAT
As a clinician, coach, dad, speaker, and writer, I help people to have the relationships they most desire and to utilize their pasts as a tool for their futures. By working with leaders — whether it’s an executive, athlete, teacher, pastor, or performer, you name it — I give people the tools they need to positively impact their own lives and the lives of others around them. Whether it’s leadership coaching, relationship building, couples therapy, addiction, trauma, or something different, my goal is the same: to speak truth and grace into every life I work with.
When I’m not facilitating, coaching, speaking, or writing, you can find me cycling, fly fishing, and living life with my wife and three children at our home in South Dakota.
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“We were absolutely amazed with Jason’s approach. We have been to so many therapists that just didn’t get it. Jason did more work in one session than we got in MONTHS with any other therapist.”
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“Simply put, Jason has been a game changer in my life. I’ve never played so well or been so focused. He’s been amazing with athletes and a well kept secret.”
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“We just got home from our marriage intensive and both agree it was one of the most impactful weekends of our entire lives. We cannot recommend it enough.”
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“Jason’s “Same Team Retreat” was outstanding. This was not the typical boring, stuffy retreat. The morning flew by and we learned so much about each other and ourselves. We will definitely use the tools he gave us to better our marriage.”
